Can I trust you?

Well the response to my last blog was really interesting. Most of the reception was relayed to me by other means than commenting at the bottom of the post. Who knew creating a (incomplete) list of what I would like in a girl (other than organs) would create quite a stir? Such responses included laughter, saying it was like what little Beehive girls do when they are 12, disagreement (especially on my opinions on physical attraction), support, saying that the list was too general, or just the general "rolling of the eyes" attitude. I'm not quite sure how to respond to it all. I thought it was a good list...

Now that I've posted the list I have been pondering about other things that I could put on it. I'm repeating myself when I say it wasn't a complete list of what I'm looking for. It was just a general summary of things. Anyway, one that came to mind this last week is especially sticking out and I'm surprised that it didn't make it on there.

Ever since a bad long-term relationship in high school I've had a hard time trusting girls. Yes, I know, high school is stupid, and most of the time good healthy relationships don't form there, and there is loads of drama and nonsense. In my defense, that was my first experience of dating, and it left a lasting impression. Since then it's been sort of an interesting experience. (I'm sure you are tired of me referring to my dating life too) There hasn't been that many good experiences (in the end) for me when it comes to dating girls. I've been cheated on, lied to, and played (that one happens the most). All of it just continually adds to my dislike of dating at all. If it were up to me I'd almost consider an arraigned marriage to be rid of it, or just shave my head and move to India to become a monk. But I digress...

The point I want to make is that trust is a pretty big deal to me. It takes a while to build, and only seconds to destroy. I want to be able to trust the person that I'm dating, and not have those small negative thoughts that they are just going to treat me badly in the end.

Trust is defined as "to rely upon or place confidence in someone or something". Let me throw some synonyms out there with it.
Integrity, "Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character"
Confidence, "Full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing"
Honesty, "The quality or fact of being honest, uprightness and fairness. Truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness

Now, nobody is perfect, but can't one guy ask for a little trust? Someone who won't lie to me (by omission or to my face), cheat on me, or play me (use me for a little while then toss me to the side)? It's pretty simple, if I can't trust you, I won't date you. I try to work harder at not letting those little thoughts in, and give the benefit of the doubt. However, if I'm dating someone and find out they are doing any of those things, it's a deal breaker. Period.

Sorry, this isn't aimed at anyone specifically, just some thoughts. It's a big deal for me, especially because of my past. So yes, I want a girl I can trust (I would think most guys would agree with me). I can't say that enough.