I try to refrain from talking about my dating life in here, because, as I have mentioned in previous blogs, people read WAY to much into it or get the wrong idea about me. BUT this blog idea has been on my mind for some time now I think I'll feel better once I've expressed my thoughts about it.
As you can read front the title, it's about the games that girls play or hints that they try to give when dating. I'll bluntly say this; I HATE THEM!! I think they are the most ridiculous part of dating. I honestly think that girls make dating a LOT harder than it needs to be. Yes, I'm sure the girls who read this will probably say it right back to me for guys. But you know, even if guys seem to make dating hard, I honestly don't think we make it nearly as difficult as girls.
I've talked to several girls about this. They agreed that they "are weird" and "can make dating difficult". When asked why, if they realize what they are doing, they don't stop it. Their answer; "I don't know."
There's a great scene in Hitch (great movie for this point I'm making, by the way) where they are at a speed dating place and the main character, Alex Hitchins, vents his frustration at women. "Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan...because he's nervous? He's not sure that he could just walk up to you and you'd respond if he said: I like you. I LIKE YOU!!". Then you have the response to the men listening nearby. "That sounds good to me.", "True, you can't tell them you like them.","I tried that, it didn't go well.","I've crashed and burned on that."
Why? Why can't guys do that? I think most guys feel intimidated to telling girls that they are interested. If they flat out told the girl, she'd probably say "thank you" if she's nice, then she'd probably back away thinking you were really forward or weird or something. So instead, in the "dating game" us guys are supposed to plan out how to get the girl to understand we like them. The funny thing is that in relationship girls will get upset because the guy "isn't communicating enough". So why is it that we're supposed to rely on hints while in the dating process, but when there is an actual relationship we are open and communicate on everything. Does that make sense to any of you? It sure doesn't for me.
Here are some direct quotes from a friend of mine about girls and dating (she's a girl too):
"Girls are inexperienced at dating and for some idiotic reason we think it is easier and on the guy(which it totally isn't) if we just completely drop the ball and ignore them once we realized we aren't interested in that way. Its hard to suck it up and reject men to there face, and so we think its easier to sugar coat it until they get the hint, but that a lot of the time ends in us leading on guys. What is an obvious rejection to a girl, like her forgetting to return text messages and phone calls then coming up with lame vague excuses, isn't so obvious to a guy and so they continue thinking the girl is interested until a complete avoidance happens.
"It's not the guys fault, its the girls fault most of the time they are so subtle about it no one can tell they are loosing interest. The girl is the only one that really knows how she feels because she cant properly express herself and then she blows up and makes a huge deal about it because she doesn't understand why the guy is still pursuing her when to the guy she hasn't really made any hints at all that she isn't interested.
"So yeah...that's the girls mind from my point of view; a very confusing and deceitful place of wishful happy endings and broke hearts."
Anyway, I'll leave those thoughts for now. I'm sure I'll come back to the topic again.
